Distance and Closeness in Relationships

One of the fundamental tenets of the book Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel is to have a successful relationship over the long term and get past the relationship’s honeymoon period, which lasts from six months to years.

So, for a relationship to be successful, there must be distance and closeness within the relationship; otherwise, people become too close and don’t wish to have sex together, or they become too distant, which causes neediness.

We have all seen couples or being in relationships where you go from being strangers to being lovers, and to what the comedian Bill Maher states, the relationship eventually becomes incestuous.

What Bill Maher and I mean by this is that when people become too familiar, they start to lose respect for one another and become so close that the relationship is like a brother and sister.

I don’t know about anybody else reading this. I would not want to have a sexual relationship with any woman, with a relationship that has formed into a brother-and-sister kind of dynamic.

To keep the romance and relationship alive, we all need to be aware of the dangers of getting too close or, perhaps more accurately, spending way too much time together.

This is why, during the Covid 19 pandemic, couples in relationships, even though they were living at home or receiving government support, their sexual activity declined by 66%. This is a colouration in regards to being too close.