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Why Love Being Transactional Is Not a Bad Thing for Relationships
Modern love is a product of the early 20th century because, in the past, marriage was not always the place for love; it was the place for raising children and providing a safe and secure environment for them.
Love and marriage are decoupled for people born in our current world.
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There is more pressure and demand on the person in those relationships because they have to be a best friend, lover, husband, father, boyfriend, girlfriend, and a host of other things.
Also, due to Western culture, there is a more I-focused approach to relationships and not a more we-focused approach to building a life with another person.
The key to successful relationships is communication and meeting each other’s bids for affection and love.
Each human being has a five-love language, and we all give and receive love in five different ways: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.
When it comes to being with another person, it’s about meeting each other’s needs and being loved in a way that meets theirs but not yours.
It’s also on their part to meet your needs.
